Knowing what will happen if you stay with the thought, is half the battle, changing it is just practice.
If you have had negative influences in your life, they could be responsible for you ‘always looking for the down side to everything’.
It is so important to break this pattern.
Often when we are growing up we may be ‘conditioned’ into a way of thinking:
We may have been told or had someone describe us as:‘not good at’ – ‘always moaning’ – ‘only quiet when s/he’s eating’ – ‘s/he’s not popular at school’.
These then become our core beliefs and expectations for ourselves.
Try and think of a few things that you remember from your early days and realise how these influences could be holding you back now.
IT’S TIME TO CHANGE … and it begins with those THOUGHTS!
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Don’t let these negative thoughts get in the way of you changing your habits – for the better.
You want to make changes for yourself and no one else needs to be monitoring or judging you.
You don’t need to be told what foods are good for you – or you should be exercising – YOU KNOW THAT ALREADY!
Be honest with yourself.
The real questions to ask (just between you and me) are:
*why do I think I can’t do it?
*what’s standing in my way?
*what are my typical destructive thoughts?
*what thoughts can I change?
*what can I change them to?
MAKE SMALL CHANGES …
It’s no good trying to change everything in one go, bite size chunks are just fine.
Start with the THOUGHTS and we’ll follow with the rest! Good luck Julie and team x |
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Our THOUGHTS are responsible for controlling what we do in our lives. The first thought that comes into our heads can control how we cope emotionally, physically and psychologically. The thoughts that follow on can be even more detrimental to our lives if we don’t recognise and change them. From these thoughts, the pattern of our day and the habits that we acquire can be formed.
For example: If we think to ourselves ‘I don’t look good in this dress’ … can automatically give us a very low mood. We may think: ‘what’s the point in shopping’ and automatically we may well stay in a very low mood for some time. The physical affect could be: ‘I’m not going out tonight, no one will miss me anyway!’
This can lead to sabotaging our own lives and to us feeling sorry for ourselves.
Notice what thoughts come into your head, and how they affect you.
If we stay with these negative thoughts, we know for sure … that our dayis mapped out.
Here’s what we have to do … and it takes practice, so don’t worry if it doesn’t come naturally:
As soon as you get such a thought, imagine it’s written on a wipe board, see yourself wiping it clean and replacing it with another thought or image. It doesn’t have to be necessarily a thought related to the original, it can be something as simple as ‘I have to collect the dry cleaning!’ If it is related then find yourself a compliment: ‘I’ve matched this dress nicely to these shoes’.
Changing this initial thought will interrupt the negative flow of the original detrimental thoughts that are likely to follow and will help stop the destructive cycle.
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