(There’s lots of choices, just don’t buy into the game, as they will only be looking for conflict).
By not letting them have the power to control YOUR behaviour, you will ensure you don’t get into the cycle of … low mood, bad eating habits… which lead back to negative thoughts … low moods and bad
eating habits …
You know if it’s happening to you, DON’T accept it.
OK, so maybe you don’t have
these ‘bad, learnt behaviours’ around food, and just like eating! You will still be having the negative thoughts or you wouldn’t need to be looking
at your weight.
For most of us that want to change our shape or size, we feel GUILTY after our behaviour: This will then take us full circle and bring back the negative thoughts … |
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and it all starts again!
*why did I eat that?
*why have I sat here all day
and nibbled?
*I’m not even hungry!
Try to break the cycle as soon as you recognise it.
You DON’T need to be told:
Not to eat something, get out
and exercise, too many fats
and carbs are bad for you …
YOU ALREADY KNOW THIS!
What you can decide for
yourself is ‘I WANT TO MAKE A CHANGE’, in my own way, and I’m starting with the way I think and behave around food and exercise.
Recognising and changing the way you deal with all aspects
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We have looked at how our initial thoughts will determine our mood. From this mood will come our ehaviour…what we actually do.
If your thought is ‘I’m really mad with that person’s comments about my weight’ … this thought will bring your mood low, you may well be angry or upset.
So what’s your usual eating behaviour when you’re upset?
*eat more than you need to?
*hide the candy in your bag,
and eat discretely and secretly.
*find something sweet ‘as this makes me feel better!’
*have a drink or two!
*don’t eat for a week to make yourself Ill?
*go out to walk the dog … past the burger bar?
What it is, ask yourself, ‘is this destructive behaviour, and what steps can I take to change?’
If any of the above applies,
where does it come from, is it learnt behaviour e.g. comfort eating, rewards or punishment?
You can change it and control it.
Recognise, at the thought process stage, where it’s going.
Don’t accept membership to the
destructive cycle … and swap the thought.
When the original thought comes into your mind, take control, wipe it out and replace it with … ‘it’s a pity s/he has to be so rude in life’ or … ‘strange looking shoes s/he has on today’. |
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